8 Reasons Why the Black Church Should Speak Out Against Sexual Predators and Assault

8 reasons, Why the Black Church should Speak Out Against Sexual Predators and Assault

Whether or not you agree he is a Rapist; agree or disagree with the 55 women who have come forward with their truth; or whether you feel we should stand with Bill Cosby or be a part of the deconstruction of the icon... one thing that is undeniable, this story provides a great opportunity for the world, especially the black church to tackle the larger discussion around prevailing sexual violence and rape culture in America. In 2013 I wrote my dissertation on the role of the black preacher to Lift the Veil of Sacred Silence around Sexual Violence thru Prophetic Preaching and Teaching...the premise of the document which is soon to be published, is that as the Preacher (spokesperson for God) we have a mandate and opportunity to lift the veil of the "sacred" silence that so many of our parishioners hide beneath...when it comes to trauma associated with sexual violence. [this is also true of domestic violence, child abuse and other grave matters, but for the sake of the document, my focus was on sexual violence]

So here we have it, our beloved and cherished figure Bill Cosby, has been accused of serial rape; and by his own words, invited us in to know that the use of a narcotic was part of his process of control; has now officially been charged with a sexual assault crime. I have thought a great deal about this story, and like many have had to struggle to separate my thoughts about a persona and the real person. As survivor and pastor; this is what I definitely know to be true, that SILENCE is not a just response. What shall the BLACK Church say? What will our stand be?  Unlike Sandusky, Bill Cosby is not just in our front or back yard, brother man is in da house, as so many African Americans watched his shows faithfully, and even viewed the TV model of black family as a model to uphold. He is intimately a part of black culture and his influence runs deep. But if we go silent on this, we have failed our congregations and community greatly. So to help think thru this, I'd like to offer 8 Reasons Why the Black Church has a a great opportunity to Speak out against Sexual Violence using as a backdrop of the allegations and charge against Bill Cosby.

1) Reason #1 - Accountability - Bill Cosby is NOT Cliff Huxtable. So while we don't want to put Cliff Huxtible on the stand...most certainly Bill Cosby should be; and be held accountable to his wrong doing. Cliff Huxtible, gave us a model of family apart from the oppressor; but we can not confuse him with the real person. Regardless of status, reputation, social contributions etc... We don't get a pass because we have done good. Accountability is one of the failings in our system, when it comes to sexual violence. Often times the perpetrator is NOT held accountable. Understand this, the women who have chosen to speak up and follow-thru with a charge, are simply holding Mr. Cosby, accountable for his wrong doing. Churches have an opportunity to encourage our community, and victims especially, that you have the right and we support you in holding your abuser accountable for their crime. We all agree a thief should be held accountable for stealing; equally so should the molester, rapist, and pedophile, because they have stolen lives (maybe not in the physical sense); but they have stolen innocence, trust, security, hope, and a persons self worth.

2) Reason # 2 - Bring Balance to our Theology - To be silent on Bill Cosby but rage about Same Sex Marriage becoming legal is an imbalanced stand of righteousness. For all those Pastors who were quick to quote Leviticus, and rage about Abomination..., please please read the whole text...Chapter 18 isn't just about men not lying with other men...but God demonstrates Gods clear concern and sets a standard for the sexual mortality of a nation. We do our congregations a disservice when our theology is imbalanced; meaning we pick and chooses what we will and won't take a loud vocal stand against or for. If one has a problem with same-sex marriage; by golly you ought to have an equal response to sexual violence. While we don't hear God use the term Rape, Molestation, Sexual Assault in the text, there is in our sacred text, like Leviticus 18, the indication that these sexual acts of violence are not pleasing to God. And then there is...Malachi 2:13-15... if we quoted that, on a Sunday, many married folks would have to Repent. 

3) Reason # 3 - Relevant Subject - To be silent on Bill Cosby is a missed opportunity to speak to the  real people in our Pews who have been victims of sexual violence. Here are a few stats every Pastor should know: the national average suggests that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men have been sexually assaulted in their lifetime. Translation, if you have 50 Women in your church, 16 to 20 of them have had similar acts of sexual assault, rape, happen to them as have been described by the 55 women who have come forward about Bill Cosby. If you have 50 men in church, that means 8 - 10 of them have been victims of sexual assault. And if those are the numbers of Victims...then don't miss out on doing the math on the perpetrators, that are also in our congregations. If you have 100 people in your church, that means, you could possibly have in your congregation 10-20 persons who committed a crime of sexual assault; and that have NEVER been reported, nor brought to justice. Our claim as clergy is that we always want to be relevant, timely, and speaking to the present culture. Quoting rappers doesn't equate to being relevant. SEXUAL VIOLENCE IS THE RELEVANT SUBJECT.

4) Reason # 4 - Complicit Silence - To be silent on Bill Cosby is to be complicit with a prevailing Rape culture in our Nation (and the world). Pastors, especially my brother Pastors, I urge you my dear brothers to be intentional to raise your voices against sexual violence. This may mean you run the risk of upsetting those leaders in our congregations who are major contributors, but woe be unto us, if we allow those who are sitting in our congregations waiting and hoping that we will say something to their pain and we do not. There has always been a loud cadre of women, lifting up Women's issues...but it wasn't until comedian Hannibal Buress, made his statement about Bill Cosby raping women, that the real fire storm happened: a journalist got on the case, dozens of woman started coming forward (now 55 to count), court documents were unsealed and now an official charge has been brought. This reality is before us to really wrestle with and we must  garner the courage to speak-up so we are not complicit with our silence; even if the topics make us uncomfortable. Crimes of this nature thrive in secret and silence. To be silent on Bill Cosby makes it easier for the 'Cosby' sitting in our pews to sit comfortable and unaccountable and our complicit silence also becomes a culprit. We can't be prophetic and silent.

5) Reason # 5 - Deconstruct Stereotypes about Sexual Predators - Don't be fooled, rapist, molesters, pedophiles, don't all wear black mask and lurk in dark places. Actually many perpetrators of these crimes are someone known to the victim, from within their family and social circle. They can be well dressed, educated, art collectors, well traveled, do a lot of social good and be connoisseur of the finer things of life; and they can be the good ole church folks (male & female), sing in choirs, serve on church boards, usher with gladness, bring their children to church, appear happily married and sit in our pews giving the largest offerings.  The problem here is, based on our stereotypes of predators, NO ONE would have ever believed Bill Cosby could do these things. Not the Coogi sweater man!? All too often, victims face this kind of disbelief when they do courageously report a violation happened by a family member, on the job, by a teacher/coach, someone in church or a close friend of the family. There is this disbelief that a person of caliber, status, refinement, like-ability, success, education and savvy could never do such a horrible thing, BUT they can and they do. We tend to associate the crime with a particular apparent low-life personality; who can't get female or male love or attention. But rape has NOTHING to do with ones relationship ability; but everything to do with power, control, sickness and their own past trauma (hurting people will hurt people). We must not assume we KNOW what a rapist, molester or pedophile, looks like. After all, What does a rapist really, look like?  Predators and perpetrators need healing too; and by lifting the issue the opportunity is made available to repent and seek help.

6) Reason # 6 - Deconstruct Stereotypes about Victims - Can a white woman, with status, who drinks, does recreation drugs...really be a victim? That seems to be the tone, around this Bill Cosby debate; that somehow these women are not real victims, because many of them are to some degree successful white women and have resources to tout; but also at the time the incidents allegedly happened...some were young aspiring actresses, used recreational drugs and were looking for an easy way up the entertainment ladder. This tone brings on critiques that their tears aren't real and their stories are untrue. And the same holds true, sadly, for most of the 13 victims (we know of) in the #DanielHoltzclaw case. A serial cop rapist, who bet the house, that no one would believe the stories of these black women because they had tainted records, drug offenses and questionable lifestyles. The criticism these women and others are facing is symbolic of the criticism many victims of sexual violence face because there are Stereotypes about victims of sexual violence; and this is the leading cause for victims not reporting the crime (male and female). I will never forget sharing at a service (not my church), about my passion to lift this issue in church and why it was so important. As I'm exiting the sanctuary a man about 6'2", approaches me and says "Pastor Juju, thank you for what you said about men and women being victims. I was molested when I was a boy, but I never told anyone because I was afraid of what people might say." Just like we can not assume we KNOW what a perpetrator looks like, neither can we make the same flawed assumption about victims. Pastors they are in our pews, serve on our board, sing in our choirs, shout in the aisle and tithe faithfully....don't assume you can look out into your congregation and guess who is a survivor. We can't! But we can speak to the pain, create the space for healing and hope; and remind survivors God sees' you, knows and cares! 

7) Reason # 7 - Social Justice Mandate -  To be silent on Bill Cosby is to forget the church was given a powerful mandate in Micah 6:9 to do mercy and love Justice. This is not just a text for coming against Police Brutality or Mass Incarceration...but all incidents of Injustice...and the fact that it has taken this long for charges to  ever be filed; while so any women were called crazy, liars, etc...for telling their truth is a miscarriage of Justice. Especially when Mr. Cosby's own words have revealed to some degree his truth. For the overwhelming majority of victims, another leading reason people (male and female) rarely report these kinds of crimes, is often due to the failure of justice system to be on the side of the victim. And all too often when a case does make it to court, victims are forced to face being re-victimized due to line of questions, verbiage used and lack of belief in his or her story. Not only are their failures in the justice system, but when we see predators not be held accountable by their organizations, denominations, colleagues, and/or groups...this is also a miscarriage of justice. There are numerous stories about churches, synagogues, mosques, temples, who failed to hold a known predators accountable; and some have even go so far to discourage victims, not to report the account to authorities.  We must make the church (worship space) a safe place for individuals to report when they have experienced assault, regardless of "WHO" the perpetrator may be; and give individuals hope their reporting will be supported and not SHAMED.

8) Reason # 8 - Fallen Heroism - Not to long ago one friend of mine said "Bill Cosby was our hero, I just can't believe it." We are naturally drawn to people with power and position; and in spite of the crime before us, the person of power and position automatically gets a pass without question. Maybe #EthanCouch wasn't the only one getting away with a crime due to affluence. Affluence, affords one excuses and tends to create a system of entitlement. This is the most egregious of crimes, you get a pass on bad behavior because you have wealth, clout or status? When our heroes fall, it is difficult to grasp that persons in power and position, would struggle with a sickness like this that would lead them to rape for power and control. We are more willing to rational-lies and blame that somehow the victim had a role in their assault; because that is easier to accept than to accept that heroes do fall. In the churches, social groups, and community this is a recurring concern. This also explains the difficulty for some to speak out against sexual assault, because we don't like to bring down our heroes, we don't want to see our heroes fall; and we would rather offer our daughters and sons to be the sacrificial lamb, than to call out those in power and position. Collectively we don't gain from protecting our heroes from being held accountable. Powerful and prophetic moment in the sacred text is when Nathan said to David "You are the man..." 2 Samuel 12:7 

This case is bigger and broader then William 'Bill' Cosby, this is not just about a person, but a culture, systems of oppression and injustice; its about the need for restoration and healing. Today we have an opportunity to use our various platforms to speak out against sexual assault, because it is the relevant issue and the moment is today.

(If you are interested in materials for sermons, bible study, small groups or referrals contact Dr. Najuma Smith-Pollard at (323) 902-7079)

 

Praying with One Eye Open???

Praying with One Eye Open???

When my husband blurted out in shock the 'Breaking News' of the shooting that popped up on his twitter feed, I couldn't believe it! I had to sit down and just breathe quietly... because on any given week on a Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday night, THOUSANDS of small to mega churches have their doors unlocked and open for those who will come in for Bible Study, Choir Rehearsal, Prayer Meeting and/or some kind of Ministry meeting; and because we believe in "ALL ARE WELCOME", we leave our doors open and unlocked, many without security...just in case someone comes in off the streets, that we may have the opportunity to minister to them. Stray, homeless or passer-byer, it doesn't matter our Faith informs this willing vulnerability, so we can be open to Serve. We leave ourselves open because we believe, God is our Shield and Protector. We leave our doors open and unlocked, praying with eyes closed and bowed heads, to honor the Lord but also because God has not given us a Spirit of FEAR, but of Power, Love and Sound Mind.  But after last night, I am concerned there will be a shift toward suspicion, not love and people of faith will start locking doors, unwelcoming stray visitors and praying with one eye open.

When sacred spaces become terror sites, it is shocking and unearthing in ways that are difficult to put into words. The worship space, is supposed to be the place for families to come and lay their burdens down, but after last night, has become the place of our greatest burden. Sadly this is not the first time, and even more frightening it will not be the last. And while I stand with the need for gun control; the deep issue isn't guns...in fact our nation has a cruel history where sacred spaces have become terror sites due to fires, bombs, burning crosses, machete's and yes, guns. The deep issue is the hatred that runs thru the DNA of the USA. I recall to mind, just last month, in Phoenix, ARMED citizens were ALLOWED to post up outside a Mosque, in protest to that group. Waving their weapons disgustingly proud, and claiming to stand up for their America. You can't allow some to stand Armed, then be shocked someone else, actually takes a SHOT! And so this alleged shooter (since we are innocent until proven guilty) followed the sick play book, or maybe added to the book another form of the terror (come in, participate, then strike) of so many hate groups and individuals, that we have seen in the past.

So tonight, I will join the many voices who will participate in a prayer vigil; praying for the grieving families and community; but I will also be praying that our Nation has a shift from such hatred, such racism and such terror. I will be praying that we stop suggesting, that we live in a post-racial society and come to terms that racism and other destructive ISMs, are at an all time high, so we can confront and correct. I will be praying that parents stop purchasing weapons for their children, and find new ways to express parental love and support. I will be praying that we don't compartmentalize this as an incident, but go much deeper to examine the national pattern of hatred in our beloved nation. And, I'll still keep praying with my head bowed and eyes closed; because the enemy can not win.



N.

Standing in the Gap

Kudos to our beloved Maxine Waters for convening today's forum "Standing in The Gap"...with four of the mothers who sons and a daughter were murdered at the hands of police and one wanna-be police, #EricGarner, #MikeBrown, #EzellFord and #AleshiaThomas. The mom of #TamirRice would have been with us but she had legal matters to attend to with that case.

As I sat there listening to their stories, I felt this sense of....'this shit is really real." I mean I knew it was real, but they were no longer sound bites on CNN or flashes of frustrated faces on split screen in between BREAKING News reports. These were real moms, bearing a weight and burden no person should have to carry. Yet in the midst of their grief...they still held up the responsibility of pushing forward to fight for Justice...in the face of so much Injustice.

Their words were life giving, life changing, and life impacting; some of which I tweeted that you can read on my feed at Twitter.com/@Revjuju

Their presence, for me, gave new meaning to the often quoted text "Maybe you have been called for such a time as this." (Esther 4:14) We all want to be Esther....brave, courageous, willing and fearless ... But what if becoming Esther means living thru your worst possible nightmare; while literally holding up the banner and crying out "no justice, no peace".

Clearly God is using them to help some who face similar grief, but God is also using them stir up those of us, who have the privilege of not walking that particular journey, so that we recognize our responsibility to rise up and fight alongside them against Injustice.

In the words of #SabrinaFulton, the mother of #TrayvonMartin, who pointedly addressed the several hundreds (or thousands...it was a very large banquet room) of people, when she said  "We have talked about us, now let's talk about you...here is how you can do your part..." She charged the crowd to do more than just hear the story but urged us to engage the process....Register to Vote and then Go Gote, to get back to serving on Jury Duty so the court room does represent "a jury of our peers", and advocate for policy changes. These were just a few actions she outlined, as tangible ways we can actually Stand in The Gap.

They could have made this day about their pain...but instead their pain became the fuel for their mission...Justice.

My hope and prayer is, May we all find our place in the Movement, Moment and Mission...of Justice.

Rev Juju

Shooting Police, is a dumb idea!

I am 100% in protest of Police Brutality. I am 100% in protest of Black males hurting other Black males, (aka Black on Black crime). But I'm also 100% in protest of shooting Police.

...while some may suggest, and I heard it this morning on the news, that with these kinds of shooting "the police, may now, understand the kind of fear and threat black and brown men face daily..." I believe is the wrong perspective and quite honestly b.s.

When police are targeted and shot at, this will not ensure in no way shape or form, that a white officer will be any more empathetic to the plight of the black or brown male. It will not ensure that a white officer will think twice (or harder) before pulling the trigger, the next time he confronts a black/brown male. It will not ensure that a white officer will walk away from being shot at, and say to him or herself  "WOW, now I know how they feel! I will do something different." In fact this form of violence, only proves to create the opposite and contrary emotion(s); that leads to greater tension between the two groups of people.

Hurting the other does not give the one doing the hurting any special influence, whereby, you are able to  make someone feel your pain or understand your plight. That notion is only found in someone who has a God complex, and thinks they can "make" someone understand (or see their point of view).

Achieving a place of mutual empathy is not created thru violence, but rather is developed out of relationship, communication, non-violence and love for humanity. Violence may lead to a different situational strategy, tactic or approach, but not to lasting change.

Every major movement that lead to change for the improvement of society, was a result of people who kept up non-violent protest, who were persistent in their cause, pushed the conversation forward and refused to let their voices be silenced, and organized to challenge unjust policy until it changed.

those who shot at the police in Ferguson, don't want change. they want violence. they want to hurt. they want to create more chaos and pain. they do not have the interest of black males. these acts create a diversion and distraction from real dialogue and action. and their actions do not bring honor to Mike Brown nor his family.

someone knows who did the shooting; and we can only hope they will turn in the shooter. we are calling you out!

N.